I attended the loveliest, most elegant wedding this weekend in downtown Syracuse.
It began in the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception on Columbus Circle with an alter filled with contemporary floral arrangements of pink hydrangea and sprays of pink orchids.
The music moved people to tears. As guests walked in, a female vocalist with an operatic voice sang Ave Maria, which usually gets me crying like someone died even on the happiest occasions because that one song more than any other reminds me of my mom. When she told me late in life that she loved that song I was surprised because she never really got into music that much. Every time I hear it I think of how I learned my mother had a tender spot for music which had escaped me for most of my adult life. Had Ave Maria occured further into the wedding ceremony the tears would have fallen right on cue like they always do. The gentleman who sang throughout the wedding sounded like an Irish Tenor. Between the two of them, I didn’t know there were voices like that in Syracuse, and that was just the beginning. The trumpet, the French horn and the magnificent pipe organ made the music worthy of the highest praise all its own.
The bride looked like Cinderella at the Ball. Her maids wore columns of aqua and eschewed the current trend of white-only bouquets by holding balls of riotous color; hot pink, brilliant orange and keylime green. Turquoise shawls enveloped the pews reserved for family, the shawls anchored by a lone, giant fuchsia hydrangea.
The reception was held at the Oncenter. Yes, that Oncenter, with cinder block walls and cavernous spaces and lighting that turns the skin yellow-grey. Think auto show. Only on this day the Oncenter was transformed into something I’ve only seen on cable television. It was a true platinum wedding.
To begin with, the gigunda space was shrunken into something more suitable and intimate with walls made from thousands of yards of white fabric, ceiling to floor. Contemporary circular chandeliers visually lowered the ceilings. Subtle lights of bright pink and vivid orange shone through the curtains to provide texture and depth.

The tables were topped with white cloths, and over them, organza overlays in turquoise with gold and bronze bugle and seed beeds. Prolific floral arrangements in those gorgeous oranges and pinks filled the tables, and sitting atop eight of the round dinner tables, were towering floral arrangements like you see at the Academy Award’s Governor’s Ball. The perfect balls of color, some three feet in diameter, were formed by enormous white hydrangea, more giant roses in orange and fushia, and dots of chartreuse-colored orchids. Sprays of pink orchids cascaded along arched stems, the erotic blossoms forming faces that seemed to smile at everyone. The crystal vases supporting these works of art had to be four feet tall to allow diners to look past them to friends across the table and they added a vertical element to the large room. The effect was like we were floating inside a white pillow.
From time to time we would interrupt our dinner conversation to comment on the music. There were standards from the 1950s and 60s, but just as often, were songs from Jack Johnson, Keane, Coldplay and John Mayer. The quality of the sound system and the tasteful performance of the disc jockey added to the class of the event.

Duel entrees of sea bass and tenderloin
Then it was over. Or, so we thought. At the end of the evening the brother of the bride took the microphone from a now-empty head table to thank everyone for coming, and on behalf of the bride and groom and their families, they wished us safe transport home…… until suddenly, the white curtain walls behind him spread apart to reveal yet another white-draped room! A 10 piece band played KC and the Sunshine Band disco from the 1970s and from the back of that room there began a free form joyous dance of the bride and groom and all the wedding party in line behind them, ending near the entrance where the head table had been split and wheeled away. The bride had changed from her Cinderella wedding gown to an ethereal white ballgown.
The groom and his groomsmen had ditched the jackets and this lovely bridal party beckoned us all to get up and come party. It’s like we flew to Miami and we were now in a club.
Two martini bars flanked either side of the room. Fiery stones on tables cooked the smores. In the corners were furniture groupings of smart Mad Menesque white tufted vinyl sofas and large square cocktail tables. Above us, the ceiling held swags of white fabric with perfectly formed balls of cobalt blue hydrangea. Tom and I danced far beyond what my feet could handle in my strappy gladiator sandals with 3″ heels. Ouch, but who cares? It was so much fun!

See the new room opened up at right?
I share this because in Syracuse anything is possible with the right attitude. Money helps of course, but this family probably could have produced a destination wedding to whisk every guest to a distant place, far from the bus transfer station on South Salina Street and the vacant storefronts and the civic malaise. This self-made success story of a family kept the party here. The Cathedral never looked or sounded better. Elegant couples walked past the colorful artists and patrons of the Arts and Crafts Festival taking place just outside the carved oak doors.
And the Oncenter. Oh, my word. If ever you wondered if this town could pull off a fairy tale event, the proof was right there. Until that wedding I’d have given you ten new Convention Centers for just one historic Hotel Syracuse, but now I’m not so sure. The grand old hotel could not have pulled this off.
They’re both lovely and they each have a place in our town. I love learning I can be wrong.